Our Second Death Café in Maine

By Nancy McAlley

At our second Death Café in Maine there were 9 people from various walks of life. It was exciting to be able to host the café and provide a forum where conversation about issues surrounding death, was acceptable. Thanks were expressed for the opportunity to share thoughts about the topic of death in a relaxed atmosphere with others.

We had a great setting in a beautiful rug hooking studio with comfortable couches, tables and chairs. Tea, coffee and cookies were offered for the pleasure of those who were attending.

Discussion started with an introduction of each person attending and their interest in the Death Café.

• We discussed the websites “It’s Okay to Die””; “Compassion & Choices”; and “Five Wishes”. 

• We discussed the role of Birth Doulas 

• We talked about home funerals and the possibility of living memorials before the person dies 

• We talked about the challenge of talking to a family when a family member is dying and the family is in denial 

• There was discussion concerning death as art and the absence of talk about death in the media 

• We talked about how do we really know when someone is near death or when they will get better 

The conversation was lively and we could have gone on for many more hours.

Our next Death Café is scheduled for March 18th at Rock the Path in Camden, ME. 

WHAT: Many people recognize that we live in a death denying culture and that we can live more fully if we embrace the fact that death happens. Death Café is a place with a relaxed, open, safe atmosphere where you are invited to share discussion with others, relating to issues surrounding life and death. 
WHO: Anyone is welcome. It is an event for all ages

WHEN: Monday, March 18 from 6:30pm – 8:00pm

WHERE: Rock the Path ( www.RockthePath.org)

50 John St., Camden, ME

Complimentary food and drinks will be provided.

There is no fee to attend.

RSVP to Rock the Path at 236-7459 or Nancy at 342-3421

Directions will be provided with RSVP

Nancy McAlley is an Interfaith Minister, a Certified Life-cycle Celebrant, a Home Funeral advocate, a Grief counselor, and an RN with extensive experience regarding end-of-life care.

Nancy lives near the ocean in Maine and loves to read, knit, visit friends and spend time in nature.