Held on Sunday the 2nd of
June
Global Tribe Café, a small
but lovely vegetarian and vegan café/restaurant which opened last July above the Global Tribe Crystal shop
in the centre of Leeds, is owned by my friends Bev and Mario.
They want their café to be
more then a café, so in the evenings or on Sundays when the café is closed for
the public it is used by different community groups in line with their
interests. From a spiritual book club, to a raw food workshop, a meditation
group or an intimate music gig.
I am very pleased that
they welcomed the idea of hosting a Death Café and I want to say a big thank
you to Bev and Mario for having us and offering their 'free' Sunday to serve
and support us.
About 18 people reserved a
place with 15 people actually attending. The age range was between early
twenties and about seventy years old.
Originally we laid out 2
groups of tables, but when everyone was there it was decided to join them altogether,
which felt much better.
Prior to the day I was
somewhat concerned about how to deal with a group, larger then 12 people as I
was worried that there would not be enough time to go several times around the
table for people to talk. I have never attended a
Death Café myself where the group was divided into smaller groups, but I can
imagine that with a large group it might be necessary to do so, although the
atmosphere would probably somewhat different.
As people
where introducing themselves and sharing their personal stories the atmosphere
became more relaxed, open and supportive to one and other. At times some people
got emotional when talking about the bereavement of a loved one but the
recognition, acceptance and support of others was comforting and inspiring.
After the
first round of sharing we had a break and refilled our cups with coffee and
teas. Someone made a comment afterwards that is was good that we had several
carafes with water on the table, as the water felt more life-affirming and supportive
to the emotions.
Also we had
far too many cakes, which luckily didn't go to waste as the café could use them
in the week.
When we
started again I was surprised that we had only ½ hour left to go, which threw
me off balance and I found it difficult to direct the conversation along
earlier raised subjects, so things became a bit fragmented.
I also
realised for myself that this time I talked to much about my own experience and
need to sit back more to let others talk. So some lessons for me to be learned.
Apart from
that, most people expressed on the feedback sheet that they would like to come
again to a Death Café in Leeds and rated the overall experience with an average
of 9 out of 10.
Here are
some of their comments:
Inspiring,
liberating, supportive environment. Everyone is so supportive to each other,
it's lovely.
The event
has helped me to give more consideration about my own physical death and that
my funeral to be a 'bonding' experience.
Brilliant,
it was nice been able to talk about death and not being criticized about it.
Very
worthwhile, 'interesting' if that is the correct word! And enhancing – brought
many aspects to the fore for consideration.
Death
Café – at last relief where I can talk openly about Death, positively,
constructively.
So overall
the Death Café in Leeds was an inspiring event and showed us again the need and
importance of providing a space where we can share our experiences of death
whilst creating together a relaxed, open, respectful, warm and supportive environment. To me this
is what humanity is about – simple
serving each other to make the most out of life.
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