Friday, 22 March 2013

Third Death Cafe in Maine with Nancy McAlley

At our third Death Café in Maine there were 11 people from various walks of life. It was exciting to be able to host the café and provide a forum where conversation about issues surrounding death, was acceptable. Thanks were expressed for the opportunity to share thoughts about the topic of death in a relaxed atmosphere with others.

We chose a town different from the first two cafes to expand our coverage. The setting was a space that is often used for inner growth workshops which also had a nice little café area. Tea, coffee and cookies and cake were offered for the pleasure of those who were attending.

Discussion started with an introduction of each person attending and their interest in the Death Café.

· We discussed the websites “It’s Okay to Die””; “Compassion & Choices”; and “Five Wishes”.

· We talked about whether we would be ready to die today if that should happen

· We talked about home funerals and the possibility of living memorials before the person dies

· We talked about how to have a funeral or memorial for a person of the Pagan belief

· There was discussion concerning how to be in control of our own death and thoughts about that

· We discussed green burials and burial on family properties

· We discussed making a “Death Box” with any information that someone may need when you die.

· We talked about wills and the importance of making one and what is involved

· Finally we discussed the possibility of hosting a day long “Death Expo” for the public. This idea was generated with a lot of enthusiasm on the part of the participants and I am excited to watch it unfold.

The conversation was lively and we could have gone on for many more hours.

Our next Death Café is scheduled for April 23rd in Searsport, Maine. 
WHAT: Many people recognize that we live in a death denying culture and that we can live more fully if we embrace the fact that death happens. Death Café is a place with a relaxed, open, safe atmosphere where you are invited to share discussion with others, relating to issues surrounding life and death. 

WHO: Anyone is welcome. It is an event for all ages

WHEN: Tuesday, April 23 from 6:30pm – 8:00pm

WHERE: 330 East Main Street Searsport, ME

Complimentary food and drinks will be provided.

There is no fee to attend.

Space is limited. Please RSVP to Nancy at 342-3421

Directions will be provided with RSVP


  1. Super Fabulous, Nancy! I am so glad to see you opening the dialogue in Maine and going to different towns. I'd love to visit one of your cafes someday. :)

  2. Glad to see you going ahead to help people come to terms with their passing on. Some have already done that and come back to tell about it when they had a near death experience. Many accounts of this can be read at WWW.IANDS.ORG that would help folks to understand the experience.


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